You Become What You Behold
There is a fascinating story in the Old Testament about the power of focus. What you focus on can affect and transform you…
Falling Out of Bed
There was a story of a little boy named Johnny who kept falling out of bed. Every time he would fall his mother would come in the room and scoop him off the floor and place him back in bed.
Empty Seat
Family Leadership Men Personal Development Relationships Women Monday, October 2nd 2017 Share the goods! A man went to the Super Bowl. He could not afford the great seats so he bought the cheaper seats relatively speaking and he was in the nosebleed section, even though his ticket had cost $350.00. The man noticed something as he looked through his binoculars, he saw that down on the 50-yard line was an empty seat. “I can’t stand this! I’m going to go down there and see if I can get that empty seat.” He made his way down there. It took him past half time to get to the seat because he had to travel so far. He got down there walked over to the seat and said, “Sir, is there anyone sitting in the seat?” He replied, “You can sit here the seat is available. My wife and I would go to the Super Bowl every year, but my wife recently died and so this seat is available.” Then it dawned on the man, as he started thinking to himself, “Your wife recently died, don’t you have some relatives or friends that you could have brought with you to bring to the game and sit in the seat?” The man responded: “Yes but they are all at the funeral.” You see that man had his priorities confused… What is the most important thing to you? Click To Tweet MORE TOPICS addiction authority biblical characters career challenges children communication convictions depression discernment emotions failure faith family fear finances forgiveness grace healing identity leadership love marriage men parenting personal development pornography priorities...
Bomb of Anger
Family Leadership Men Personal Development Relationships Women Monday, May 8th 2017 Share the goods! There was a 1994 article called Wars, which stated that there were lethal bombs left all over thirteen European countries. The bombs of WW2 were still killing people in Europe. They would turn up and sometimes blow up at construction sites and fishing nets on beaches 50 years after the guns fell silent. Hundreds of tons of explosives have been discovered in France alone. Thirteen bombs exploded in France in 1994, killing 12 people. One man says: “I lost two colleagues due to these bombs.” An expert said that unexploded bombs become more dangerous with time. Corrosion inside the weapon causes the detonator to become exposed. This is why the longer they’re there, the more dangerous they become. This is how anger is with many people. Have you ever been around a person and they just explode and you say where did that come from? Simple. The detonator was off with something you said or did!!! An angry person will just go off!!! “Be angry, and do not sin”: do not let the sun go down on your wrath. Click To Tweet MORE TOPICS addiction authority biblical characters career challenges children communication convictions depression discernment emotions failure faith family fear finances forgiveness grace healing identity leadership love marriage men parenting personal development pornography priorities process purpose relationships respect restoration righteousness sex sin success temptation trials women Help us continue helping others! DONATE TODAY Share the goods! Monday, May 8th 2017 RELATED VERSES Esther 3:5-6 (NKJV) When Haman saw that Mordecai did not bow or pay...
Man to Manhole
Family Leadership Men Personal Development Relationships Women Monday, September 5th 2016 Share the goods! There’s a story of a man who woke up one morning and decided he would walk down the street. While walking down the street, he saw a manhole and so he decided to jump into the hole. The next day he got up, and he walked to the same manhole. On this day, he looked inside of the hole and then he decided to jump in. On the third day, the man looked inside of the same manhole and said, “I’d better not jump in” and then he went ahead and jumped in. God is concerned about the paths we choose. Click To Tweet The following day he awoke and approached the same hole, he looked inside, and said, “Boy that really hurt,” then he jumped inside of the hole. On the next day, the man got up and walked all the way down the street and again he jumped into the hole. This sounds just like a lot of people’s dating lives. Finally, one day the man awoke and decided to take a different street. He chose a new path. God is concerned about the paths we choose. When you start asking yourself, “What is the path I am taking,” you are then on the road to personal growth. MORE TOPICS addiction authority biblical characters career challenges children communication convictions depression discernment emotions failure faith family fear finances forgiveness grace healing identity leadership love marriage men parenting personal development pornography priorities process purpose relationships respect restoration righteousness sex sin success temptation trials women Help...
Composite Mates
Family Leadership Men Personal Development Relationships Women Monday, August 8th 2016 Share the goods! It is very clear that when men engage in porn, they start to create a composite, physical Bambi. What does that mean? Simply put, every time that man views a beautiful or sexy image, that image is stored in his mind and then added to this composite Bambi. So she has the legs of Stella, the breasts of Sue, and the legs of Becky. This is so dangerous because the man is, in essence, asking his wife to compete with this composite woman. Obviously, his wife cannot keep up with this image! Be fair to your spouse! Click To Tweet On the flipside, what people do not discuss is that women can engage, I believe, in emotional porn! What does this mean? Simply put, you will have women who want their men to have the Scriptural knowledge of a pastor and the type of adoration their fathers used to give them. They want their husbands to have the communication skills of Larry King. The charm of Bill Clinton. The money of Bill Gates. What these women are doing is asking their husbands to compete emotionally with this composite, emotional Bambi! Clearly, that man cannot keep up with this man who lives in his woman’s dreams because this composite man always listens to her, has nothing but time, never has an opinion that challenges hers, and believes everything that she says is right! MORE TOPICS addiction authority biblical characters career challenges children communication convictions depression discernment emotions failure faith family fear finances forgiveness grace healing identity...
Hopeful vs Hopeless
Family Leadership Men Personal Development Relationships Women Monday, July 25th 2016 Share the goods! During the Korean War, American soldiers were found dead in three basic states. Some were fighting, some were running away, and some were found dead in the bottom of their foxholes with no signs of violence. Those fighting and those running had similar physiologic changes found during autopsy: 1. Blood was shunted to the skeletal muscles and away from the intestines. 2. The pupils of their eyes were dilated. 3. The muscles of their heart were in a state of constriction at the time of death. 4. The airways to their lungs were dilated. Those found dead with no marks of violence had the opposite changes: 1. Blood was shunted to the intestines and away from the skeletal muscles. 2. The pupils of their eyes were constricted. 3. The muscles of their heart were in a state of relaxation at the time of death. 4. The airways to their lungs were constricted. These findings were compatible with sympathetic nervous system discharge for the fighters and runners. The others were compatible with parasympathetic nervous system discharge. The sympathetic part is also called the “fight or flight response” and is a result, in general, of the outpouring of adrenaline. The parasympathetic part is also called the “vegetative” side of the nervous system. These soldiers’ autopsies demonstrated exactly what this discharge would cause – death! The conclusion of the article was that the soldiers who were fighting or running were trying to do something, even if in fear. They had hope of winning or getting away. The soldiers...
Plantation Mindset
The Emancipation Proclamation was signed in 1863, but Texas didn’t find out about it until June 19, 1865, which means there was a two-year gap between the time when the slaves were granted liberty and when they experienced liberty. Nobody told the slaves in Texas they were free. Even though they were legally free, they were not experientially free, so in 1865, blacks in Texas were still walking around behaving like slaves.
Mount Everest
Consider this visual illustration. Mount Everest towers five and a half miles above the earth. What is it that drives men to climb to such great heights?
Debt Collectors
Family Leadership Men Personal Development Relationships Women Monday, November 9th 2015 Share the goods! Why do men go into debt? Businesses subconsciously market and appeal to our hidden need for love, approval, companionship, significance and relief from anxiety. We live in a society of mass consumerism and the goal is always more consumption. Ads on tv, radio, online and in social media prompt us all to buy, buy, buy and spend, spend, spend. This may boost the economy, but what does this do to you and your pocketbook? It drives most folks further and further into debt. Debt beguiles us into believing that if we just buy one more thing it will satisfy our thirst. Debt enables men to pretend for a while that they're someone they're not... Click To Tweet And the problem with debt is that it’s addictive–once you find out how to get things with it, you drink up more and more as if it were sweet wine. And then your palate just wants to be delighted with even more. But long after the novelty has worn off of whatever you’ve purchased, long after the vacation is over, we have to pay back the money. Debt is a mirage. The most insidious thing about debt is that it enables men to pretend for a while that they’re someone they’re not, but the façade does not fool the bill collectors. MORE TOPICS addiction authority biblical characters career challenges children communication convictions depression discernment emotions failure faith family fear finances forgiveness grace healing identity leadership love marriage men parenting personal development pornography priorities process purpose relationships respect restoration...
Monkey See Monkey Do
Family Leadership Men Personal Development Relationships Women Monday, July 24th 2017 Share the goods! They picked up an old hound. She was a female and they adopted her as their pet. One day that dog got pregnant, and she was running around in the yard while the owner was cutting the grass and while she was playing with the owner she accidentally got her two hind legs cut off and everybody was devastated because they loved the dog and the dog was pregnant. So she was rushed to the vet and after looking at her, he said, “We have two choices we can put her to sleep or we can save her but she will be walking around with a limp because she will no longer have her two hind legs.” So the owner said “Save her!” Just as the vet described, she walked around the house dragging her rear end. Thank God! The puppies were saved and born healthy. But do you know what happened, just after a few weeks of being born? All of the puppies started walking around dragging their rear. This shows the power of modeling!!! Do not be deceived: 'Evil company corrupts good habits.' Click To Tweet MORE TOPICS addiction authority biblical characters career challenges children communication convictions depression discernment emotions failure faith family fear finances forgiveness grace healing identity leadership love marriage men parenting personal development pornography priorities process purpose relationships respect restoration righteousness sex sin success temptation trials women Help us continue helping others! DONATE TODAY Share the goods! Monday, July 24th 2017 RELATED VERSES Psalm 1 (NKJV) Blessed is the man...
Access Point
A woman who lived by herself went home one day and discovered that she’d been burglarized. As you can imagine, the woman was very upset and went out and purchased an alarm system and had it installed; she also replaced her stolen items.
The Real Problem
Have you ever opened your refrigerator and all of a sudden a foul odor comes out of the refrigerator? You spray some air freshener in the kitchen and that works for awhile, but sooner or later you have have to deal with the source of the smell.
The Great Ship
Family Leadership Men Personal Development Relationships Women Monday, February 20th 2017 Share the goods! There is a story of a man who was building a ship and this guy was really into the ornate riggings of ship building so he built the most gorgeous sail you could imagine. He put all of the most beautiful furnishings on the sail and in the paint job. It had the most technological navigational furnishings that you ever saw but when it came time to invest in the keel and put the weight there to stabilize the ship in storms; it really was not that important to him since nobody was going to see it. He fudged on it and did not put much down there. Looks are not everything... Click To Tweet So, the first day he was out on the ocean, a storm came by and the ship capsized and the man who went out into the harbor with great applauds came back with shame because he “had forgotten to build below the waterline.” One of the great tragedies in life today for many marriages is that most people are caught up in the sails and the wood and the equipment and the accouterments of life but the character that lies beneath the waterline is so hard for them to get to that it never gets addressed. It’s easy for life to get cracked above the waterline, we should be building beneath the waterline. MORE TOPICS addiction authority biblical characters career challenges children communication convictions depression discernment emotions failure faith family fear finances forgiveness grace healing identity leadership love marriage men...
Admit You Made a Mistake
Family Leadership Men Personal Development Relationships Women Monday, January 23rd 2017 Share the goods! Many people invest in bad relationships like they invest in bad companies. Have you ever owned a company? Let’s say it’s a tech stock, and the company is worth 1/5th of what you paid for it. The stock did not have any earnings, but you bought it anyway because of its potential. When most people lose roughly 80% of their investment, they hang onto the stock saying “It is low, it has to go up.” But instead, it just becomes dead money that is not doing anything for the owner. Instead of taking that money and buying a company that could appreciate, many people keep their money in that dead company. This is what many people do when they get into relationships based on potential. After four or five years, they watch a person “depreciate.” Instead of investing themselves in a relationship that is healthy and heading somewhere, they say to themselves, “Well I have been in this relationship this long I may as well stay.” Are you overstaying your welcome? Click To Tweet MORE TOPICS addiction authority biblical characters career challenges children communication convictions depression discernment emotions failure faith family fear finances forgiveness grace healing identity leadership love marriage men parenting personal development pornography priorities process purpose relationships respect restoration righteousness sex sin success temptation trials women Help us continue helping others! DONATE TODAY Share the goods! Monday, January 23rd 2017 RELATED VERSES Joshua 1:1-3 (NKJV) After the death of Moses the servant of the Lord, it came to pass that the Lord spoke...
Indecent Proposal
Family Leadership Men Personal Development Relationships Women Monday, June 6th 2016 Share the goods! The goal of the enemy is to always present you with an indecent proposal – particularly when you have a particular, or an intense need. He wants you to compromise who you are, or your birthright to fill what feels like an urgent need. In Genesis 25:29-34, Esau gave up his birthright to his brother Jacob to satisfy an intense hunger he was experiencing in a particular moment. The enemy always comes to take advantage of us in our weakest moments, so we have to learn how to delay gratification. In other words, we need to suffer in the short term, so that we can be blessed in the long term. It may appear that satan has some goodies, but they are not the will of God. Click To Tweet Here’s the question we all must ask ourselves: What are some of the things we may need to suffer in the short term so we can be blessed in the long term? Is it our finances? Save now, so we can be blessed later? Maybe it’s keeping ourselves sexually pure while we are so our minds can be clear in the long run. Why is this so important? Simple. The enemy will always come down your block on a hot summer day with ice cream truck of temptation! It may appear that satan has some goodies, but they are not the will of God. You remember what happened when you were little and you heard the ice cream truck coming down the block. You’d act...
Staying The Course
Family Leadership Men Personal Development Relationships Women Monday, May 30th 2016 Share the goods! Boating on the ocean is fascinating. The captain sets a compass heading in the direction he wants to go. He locks in that heading on the autopilot, and then the boat takes off in that direction; so far so good. It gets interesting when the craft hits a large wave or a series of waves. The autopilot does not allow the external action to alter its course. It keeps its original decision in place, heads straight for the goal, and then goes through the wave. There is a splash, lots of rocking and spraying, and an immediate correction by the autopilot if the ship is knocked off course in any way. When I say immediate, I mean immediate. The autopilot does not allow the ship to get swayed off course even momentarily when it hits a bump in the water. Beware of the fear of men... Click To Tweet Most people do not operate like this. They know their proverbial ship is heading in the right direction, but they look over to see someone else’s reaction to their decision. The other person’s decision becomes like a mighty wave that looms larger and larger until it appears even bigger and bigger than their decisions, goals, and values that drove the initial decision. So the person changes their course. They adjust, but now they have lost their heading. They have avoided crashing into the wave and getting soaked by the spray, but now they are off course. Well, not entirely off course, but rather they’re on someone...
Sweet Tooth
Family Leadership Men Personal Development Relationships Women Monday, May 9th 2016 Share the goods! When you see a man with multiple homes, or multiple cars, or excesses in life, here is the question that we must ask: What is the result of men seeking to find purpose? In Ecclesiastes 2:22, Solomon arrives at this conclusion: “For what has man for all his labor, and for the striving of his heart with which he has toiled under the sun? for all his days are sorrowful, and his work burdensome; even in the night his heart takes no rest. This also is vanity.” We might say that Solomon took a box of chocolates and tasted them in pursuit of happiness. The irony is that no matter which piece of candy men pick, they end up with a sweet tooth. Change by revelation, not desperation! Click To Tweet This is why you see athletes who run through women, get in trouble with the law, have substance abuse issues open up to the things of God after they have spent their wheel. Sadly for many men, change occurs when they are old in life, and their strength is little, and when they are aged, and when they have blown their families, and they do not have much time left to enjoy life. The challenge for each man is to not get to the point where God has to allow futility to draw him. Men should make a volitional choice to pursue God and not let too much of life to pass before this revelation occurs. MORE TOPICS addiction authority biblical characters career challenges...
Metabolize Your Life
Family Leadership Men Personal Development Relationships Women Monday, May 2nd 2016 Share the goods! When we do not metabolize or process the events in our lives we prevent ourselves from being able to embrace the new that God has for us. We’re like a computer that has a very small hard drive, say 3GB, and every time we try to upload a new program to our computer it slows down. I once had a computer that took 15 minutes to “boot up.” I would turn on my computer in the morning and then I would take a shower or eat breakfast, or do a whole bunch of other things. I finally realized that my computer was slow because there was no room on my hard drive for anything new. Get ready for the new things God has for you! Click To Tweet In other words, I had to remove some old programs to make room for the new programs. This is how life is for many people. God has some new software that He wants to load onto the hard drive of our life. But because we haven’t metabolized, or processed previous experiences we are unable to embrace what God is trying to do. It could be said that some people spend their whole lives “booting up.” In other words, they never get to run the program of life that God has for them because they are always “booting up.” They never get to the application of the things that God has for them because of unresolved issues that keep them in perpetual “boot up” mode. The goal of...
Break The Cycle
Family Leadership Men Personal Development Relationships Women Monday, March 28th 2016 Share the goods! There’s a term called “transference” that’s used in psychology. Transference occurs when a person experiences something in a previous relationship and the person projects that experience onto others. What makes this dangerous is that “transference” will often make the person unconsciously engage in behavior that causes them to create experiences they fear. For instance, a person who had a tough and controlling father grows up to resent, or fear authority figures. What can happen is that when that person gets a job and their boss gives them some constructive criticism at a 5 level, the person, who is extra sensitive, and expecting the same treatment from his boss that he received from his father hears the criticism at level 9. What’s tricky is that the person will unconsciously engage in behavior that leads to the very situation they fear or were trying to avoid. Don't let your past determine your future! Click To Tweet Suppose that same person’s boss asks them to make a copy. The person making the copy is so nervous that he rushes to make it, but in his haste he makes a poor quality copy. The person then rushes and hands the copy to his boss. The boss looks at it and thinks to himself, “Why would they make such a poor quality copy?” The vicious cycle swings into motion, because the boss then tells them to make the copy quality a little better the next time. The boss’s level 5 comment is interpreted at a level 10 and instead of...